Sunday, August 13, 2017

[PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT] How to control your thoughts


I know I have been missing in action from blogging for a good few months now. I felt like I really needed a break from everything to reset and re-calibrate my thoughts, my goals and my life in general. A lot of things have changed since my last post and I think I've given myself a long enough time to figure out myself and also for things to settle down.

I won't go into detail as I consider this very personal. But suffice to say, what I've gone through has changed me.

It challenged my beliefs and opened my eyes to the different types of people in this world. Right now, I'm so much more cautious and also the fact that I know people can judge you just because they're biased towards you is just incredibly ridiculous.

That's why it pisses me off now when people throw their judgement around. Not everyone is the same: Not everyone has the same appetite of risk, not everyone was brought up the same, we all meet different people in our lives, get exposed to different experiences in life. So how can you just judge someone based on face value?

I come from a pretty grounded and sheltered background where drama was kept at a minimal. But then as I grew up, I realised, there are A LOT of scary people around. We all reach a certain stage in life (some earlier, some later) when you're outside your parent's control and you start knowing other people who aren't under ANYBODY's control also. And then, these people pass nasty comments or do nasty stuff to you and they really have no idea how bad and harmful their actions can cause a person. It can literally causes anxiety and depression.

SO GUYS, don't simply go around judging people or making bad comments on someone you don't really know, because, come on, we don't want the same to happen to ourselves. So let's just respect each other okay?

Oh, and what I've been through the past couple of months, what goes around, eventually comes around. Because karma is a bij. A bad, bad bij.

ANYWAY, moving on.

I have been trying to control my mind in a more capable way because there has been periods of time where I'd get these constant, recurring, negative thoughts that come up. And I struggled to get rid of them. I get obsessed over this one bad thing that happened to me. SO..


It SUCKS losing control over my thoughts for a prolonged period of time. Guys, seriously, I know how certain events in life can have a NASTY effect on you. But I can't preach how important it is to GET OUT of that mindset. And start living again.

How to master your psychology.

Ok I am not a guru or whatever but because I've experienced getting in an emotional rut and have been actively trying to heal, I did my own study and I know a thing or 2 about this.

Primarily, there are 2 kinds of thoughts. AUTOMATIC and CONSCIOUS.

Automatic Thoughts

These are automatic, unconscious, immediate thought and impulses that come up from your body. So if you had challenges or fears in your past, it's your body's natural reaction to pull out those thoughts and say "Hey man, protect yourself. We're worried about this." But sometimes, those are not helpful thoughts. Its just the brain taking the easiest route we know.

And part of becoming more matured and enlightened is to take control of our system. Our ability to more directly work, control and create our own thoughts and not relying to the thoughts that come up to us.

Which brings me to the next one.

Conscious Thoughts

These are thoughts that we make consciously. We need a certain amount of willpower and effort to do so too. And the more willpower exercised, the easier it will be to override your automatic thoughts. So how do we train our conscious thoughts to build up a positive mind set?

Relative Weight Importance Duration

Anything becomes a habit through repetition that seals it at the back of our head. We can give positive thinking a lot of focus and repetition.

Take total control of your attention. Notice, where are your thoughts right now. Are they supporting me? Or are they coming up with negative, protective thoughts in my mind. Just start paying attention to your thoughts.

Re-direct it. What is the positive of that negative thought? Visualize and think about the positive outcome. Give it a sensation. Keep focusing on that. Give it attention, sensation, duration. When the mind comes up with that easy, negative thought, push it away. Re-direct your thoughts.

Attention, sensation, duration. Keep repeating. Focus, focus, focus. This will condition the mind. 

It's that repetitive attention to that positive alternative, to that negative impulse that comes up, that gives us personal power.

So the below are 5 suggested questions to gently pull your mind away from that negative state into a more positive one and start changing the course of your mind:
  1. Ask yourself 5 positive questions everyday, 3 times a day.
  2. What can I do to make the people I love happy right now? How can I surprise them right now?
  3. What can I do to have fun right now?
  4. How can I demonstrate love right now?
  5. What steps can I think of to create my ideal life right now? My fortune right now?
Also, come up with 3 words to describe your ideal self. Confident, charming, outstanding, over achiever, bubbly etc. Anything that you see yourself best as.

Take action and fake it till we make it. You can actually condition your thoughts by behaving in a positive way. Your actions conditions your mind just as much as a recurring thought recondition your mind.

I'll leave y'all with a quote by David Goggins himself -

"We forget how hard we really are. Suffering is the true test of life."

Monday, February 6, 2017


Hi loves!

So today I'm back with another one of my recent staples in my diet: the dreaded green vegetable smoothie!

For me, living away from home and before embarking on this health journey, I have found it hard to get in greens into my diet. Usually, eating out, it's either the vegetables are oily or I have to order salad (which I don't lol).

So vegetable juices / green smoothies are a great way to incorporate as much raw vegetables into your diet as possible. And because I usually blend them with fruits, it's so much easier and tastier to take it in.

Vegetables are so so sooo important. It really clears your skin and trust me, consistent intake of dark, green leafy vegetables does wonders to your complexion! It brightens your skin by giving it that healthy glow.

Here's the basic building blocks of what you need:
  • A blender (you don't say)
  • 2 kinds of dark green leafy vegetables
  • 2-3 kinds of fruits
 So here's my take on my current favorite green smoothie concoction :


  • A handful of baby spinach
  • 5-6 leaves of Kailan
  • 1 frozen banana
  • Half a chilled mango
  • Few cut up pieces of pineapple

Blend them all in together in the blender with 1/4 cup of water or 2-3 ice cubes, depending on how thick or diluted you want your smoothie to be. And there you have it! A power-packed smoothie perfect for breakfast or anytime of the day that you need a pick-me-up. I'm challenging myself to have a glass of this everyday or every alternate day. 

How I do this is by planning my grocery list a week before so I make sure buy all the essential vegetables and fruits. So when I know I have these ingredients in my fridge, I feel like I need to use them up before they start rotting.

Hope you guys give this smoothie a try! Trust me, once you get used to the taste, you'll start loving it ;)

Till' then xx

Saturday, February 4, 2017


Happy February!!!

Oh my, 2017 is already into its 2nd month. Just goes to show that time is so precious and I want to make the best out of each day.

So here's another smoothie recipe that I've been loving recently. I've been working out pretty often nowadays (let's hope it continues lah) and I need my protein and carbs fix. As of now, I don't take any protein shakes. So I'm trying different ways to incorporate proteins and also good carbs into my diet as much as possible.


  • 1 and 1/2 frozen bananas
  • 1 tbsp of pure cocoa powder
  • 1 tbsp of unsweetened, organic peanut butter
  • 3/4 cup of fresh milk/almond milk
Blend all of the above together in a blender and pour it into a mason jar. The mason jar I bought above is from Jaya Grocer. And ta-dah! You're done! Simple right? Best served chilled :) You can make this for your breakfast or also as a pre/post-workout smoothie. 

Bananas are high in potassium which is an essential mineral for maintaining blood pressure, heart health and bone strength. It's also sweet and filling and keeps me contented in the morning. Peanut butter on the other hand is big on protein and protein is so important to build muscle. I'm gonna make myself a big jug of this smoothie tonight!

Hope you guys enjoy this! By the way, I post daily updates on my instagram so be sure to follow me there @missymiyen aite? :D

Till' then!

Tuesday, January 17, 2017


Hi loves!

I've been embarking on a healthier diet for the past 2 weeks and I've decided to share my journey and tips for you fitness and health junkies!

The "New Year, New Me" syndrome has been quite effective and also the fact that I'm actually seeing results have kept me pretty much on track so far.

I have been having breakouts for the past few months and I hope by the end of February, my skin would be completely cleared. I can already see results so I'm pretty pumped up!

Anywayyy, let's start with breakfast!

So recently I've been making my own overnight oats. Previously, my breakfast consisted of either nasi lemak, thick milo + biscuits or simply nothing at all. Not surprisingly, my skin suffered. I did some research on ideas for really hearty yet healthy and simple breakfast and overnight oats is up there on my list.

It's so easy to make and so good. Here's the recipe for a basic overnight oat variant:

Overnight Oats

  • 4 tbsps of rolled oats
  • 1 tsp of honey
  • 1 tsp of chia seeds
  • Unsweetened soy milk

Mix them altogether in a mason jar and leave it in the fridge overnight. And ta-dah! Your very own jar of goodness in the morning.

I usually prefer to eat a lot in the morning because... well, because I can. So rolled oats is a good source of energy and keeps me satisfied until lunch.

I switch between milk + greek yogurt and unsweetened soy milk. I prefer unsweetened soy milk rather than cow's milk because its dairy-free. But it is more expensive so I alternate between them. I think one of the most important things to cut out from my diet (at least for now) is dairy food because anything dairy-based tends to cause acne.

Also, chia seeds are really something new I've been incorporating because it has so many goodness. It's a super food. It's a beast.

Grocery list:

So above is typically the ingredients you should buy for a basic variant of overnight oats. I forgot to include honey in the picture but yeah, buy honey. Later on, you can build up on the above and get fancy with other stuff like peanut butter.

Basically the only stuff you would need to replenish weekly is the milk/soymilk/greek yogurt. Other than that, the rest can last you a pretty long time. And because its so easy to make, I have been making overnight oats for at least 3 out of 5 days a work week.

If you like, you can shred some dark chocolates into your overnight oats or add some blueberries or slices of banana for that finishing touch.

So that's it for today. I hope you guys give it a try because I feel having a good, healthy breakfast is a great way to start a day :)

 I've been posting a lot of what I eat on my Insta story so do follow my Instagram for daily updates! My Instagram handle is @missymiyen

See y'all in my next post! Till then, stay awesome :)

Thursday, January 5, 2017

[VIDEO] Spicy Korean Ramen Challenge ft. My Sister!


Omg, watching back on the video makes me salivate just thinking about the ramen. But I'm going to be staying away from this ramen until my skin clears up (at least until end of January).

I hope you guys enjoy the video. I know I'm still a VERY amateur-ish YouTuber and there are tons of improvement that can be made so hopefully my other videos will get even better :)

I welcome you to join this journey with me!


Tuesday, January 3, 2017



So today is 03.01.2017. I know this is a bit old-school but my first post is you guessed it, resolutions.

I think its really important to have resolutions or goals to look forward to and strive to achieve in life. Isn't that what life is about? :)

This year I shall resolve to:


I always have a tendency to not hear people out and interrupt them with my thoughts. And this attribute also lends to me making hasty and impulsive decisions.

So whenever I find myself in that situation, I resolve to STOP, BREATHE IN AND OUT SLOWLY, THINK and DECIDE WHETHER MY INPUT IS ACTUALLY VALUABLE TO THE HUMAN RACE *god sometimes i just need to learn to keep my mouth closed*


This point ties in a bit with point 1. My brain is constantly on overdrive.  Like it's always jumping around with ideas and things I want to say and do ALL AT ONCE. It is a boon at times (when it comes to getting inspiration and motivation) but when it comes to actually executing the plans I have and sticking to them on a daily basis, this is where I fail miserably.

Consistency literally applies to all aspects of your life: fitness goals, diet goals, whatever other goals you want to achieve.

I've been reading and watching a lot on productivity recently and for me, having a planner is super important because I get to jot down my plans and goals.

After setting out your goals, plan out how you are going to achieve those goals. Break them down to into small steps and do those steps consistently until they become ingrained in you. Goals change you, because you mould yourself to how you envision yourself when those goals are reached. You're gonna love the results ;)


Yes THIS is so important. I've been guilty of the above way too many times. But that shall CHANGEEE.

Because I really believe that the more we complain and rehearse about how bad a certain someone is or how bad your day was or how nothing is going right with life, the more the Universe will give you those kinds of unwanted experiences.

I know it's really tough to stop complaining especially since sometimes you just feel down in the dumps and all you wanna do is rant. On and on and on, to every single soul you meet, every day. We have to realise how dangerous that is because we're hard wiring those negative thoughts into our belief system.

I think ranting for a bit is okay. But after that, it's so important to STOP and move on.

One way to kill this habit is to just force a ban on certain topics that strike a bad chord in you and START telling a NEW story on what you would actually like to happen instead.What you look forward to in life etc.

Write affirmations and ALWAYS practice self-love. Never put yourself down or blame yourself because, damn you're worth it. Know that and embrace the fact that you are on the way to activating ALL that you were made to be.

So, I resolve to stop talking and rehearsing OLD stories and start CREATING NEW stories.

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Whatever happened in 2016 has passed. This year, let's make it the best year of our lives :)